Love! So simple and complicated at the same time. We can see it as the most magical and pure thing that we will feel in our life, but it also brings us a headache from time to time. Without going any further, this strong feeling also has enemies that will try to destroy it, like life itself. We list the most frequent ones:
You, and you, and you, and only you. Does it sound familiar? Well no, it is not only a song by Pablo Alboran, it is also a reality that becomes a problem when we refer to a relationship. Because pretending that the world revolves around oneself will only lead to fatigue on the part of the other person. We all want to have a certain attention and care, but when we are in a relationship we must try to receive in a similar measure to what we give.
It starts with little lies, and ends with big deceptions that cause all credibility in a relationship to be lost. The most important thing to have a healthy and lasting relationship is trust, honesty and truth. Any concept that deviates from these ideas will only provoke negative reactions for the relationship.
Not knowing how to ask for forgiveness
Nobody is perfect, and all of us at some time in our life have had to rectify and apologize for our mistakes. Although it may seem impossible to believe, there are people in a relationship who have never heard an “I’m sorry” from their partner. But not forgiving will only fill us with anger, resentment, and sadness.
We have already told you on other occasions about how insane dependence is in a relationship. But within this ranking, we couldn’t stop naming her again. Be very careful not to confuse love with dependence. No one should depend on anyone other than himself, and for this, self-confidence and having a high self-esteem are essential pillars, that is, loving ourselves first to be able to love someone else later.
Abuse in a relationship is not always visible. Even for the victim there are signs that go unnoticed. Physical abuse is openly shown through physical violence with beatings, injuries and, in the most serious cases, even death. But there is also emotional abuse, which includes threats and humiliation.
The latter is, in many cases, even worse than physical abuse. But since it is not visible, it is more difficult to identify, even for the victim who is suffering from it. It is precisely this that abusers “feed” on: ridicule and humiliation so that the victim questions their own reality.
We are currently experiencing a social movement, feminism, with a strong demonstration against abuse and violence, both physical and emotional. For many years there was only physical abuse in the eyes of the people, but today many signs of abuse are identified before reaching the blow.
One of the biggest problems when identifying emotional abuse is that in our culture, many of the expressions of abuse are understood as “habitual situations”, and it is not known where the line exists that separates what is “habitual” from what is known as “abuse”. We must fight so that this line is perfectly delimited, so that many of the situations that … Read the rest